Keeping up appearances

Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt

In the world of social media today, we find that most of us feel the need to “keep up appearances”. We all tend to share and post what we want our friends and followers to see. The not-so pleasant, or attractive, or even exciting part of our lives we keep private. And yet we don’t consider this when we find ourselves comparing our circumstances to others. We see what people allow us to see, and very often that can affect us in a negative way, because we wish we could have their job, their looks, their seemingly carefree, happy life. We compare ourselves in every possible way and we let this get us down. We think about what we lack, in terms of physical attributes, or financial situation, career success, and so on and so on. In short, comparison causes resentment and steals our joy.

But there are a few things we should keep in mind when negative thoughts and jealousy start to creep in;

  • Looks can be deceiving; in other words, what you see is not always what is real. Just as I mentioned above, we don’t see every single aspect of a person’s life through social media or even in real life. We see what they want us to see. And that’s not a bad thing, as we all do it, and what is the point of sharing anything negative? We all have our problems, our burdens, our faults and imperfections, no one on this planet is exempt from that. It’s just life. So before you judge another person, and allow their seemingly perfect life to make you feel less of yourself, realize that they are human and perhaps may be worse off than you in many ways. Be compassionate, and even happy for them! We all deserve to be happy after all 🙂
  • Everyone has insecurities of their own; I don’t think there’s a person alive who isn’t insecure about something. Even if they hide it pretty well. So when you start comparing yourself to someone, think of how they may be comparing themselves to you, or any other person.
  • Be logical – not everyone is on the same page of your journey; don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. Everyone is on a different chapter of their life, no one is on the same page. So don’t beat yourself up if you’re not where you want to be yet. Life is not a competition, it’s a journey.
  • Be grateful; It’s not what you have that matters, but what you do with what you’ve been given. Instead of focusing on what others have that you don’t, appreciate what you do have. A family, a roof over your head, nourishing food to eat, a job that allows you to earn a living, your health, your friends, your significant other, or even just the gift of life, to wake up to another day. Count your blessings, express your gratitude and be thankful for being a part of this beautiful universe that has so much to offer.
  • Love and appreciate yourself; we all have strengths and weaknesses. No two people are the same. Embrace your flaws and your attributes. Acknowledge the good you possess, and be kinder to yourself. You are a child of God, a product of the Universe, unique in every way and sent to this earth with a divine purpose.
  • Learn from people who have what you want; they must be doing something right!

Last but not least, do it for yourself. Realize that comparing yourself to others will only hurt you, and stop you from fulfilling your own true potential. We all get just one chance at life – make the most of it.

 

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2 thoughts on “Keeping up appearances

  1. Thank you for this message! I needed it today! Especially loved this part:

    Be logical – not everyone is on the same page of your journey; don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. Everyone is on a different chapter of their life, no one is on the same page. So don’t beat yourself up if you’re not where you want to be yet. Life is not a competition, it’s a journey.

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